Losing a pet can be very confusing.    Most people don't understand why people get so upset when they lose a pet or the pet dies.    Usually of course those people, usually won't own a pet and for them, human beings are important and pets are not.    When a pet dies or gets lost or stolen, it can be very traumatic for the human looking after that pet.   Mostly though, even the owners feel that they have no right to be distraught because that's what we have been taught over the years, that only human beings are important.    This then causes great stress in the owners because they are not "allowed" to grieve for their lost pets.   When we stuff down our feelings this usually comes out in the body (it manifests itself in the form of illness).    

Loss is loss no matter what the loss.    People can be distraught because they lose a ring of their Mothers / Fathers and again that ring may be the only thing left that they have for a memory.   However, again, people don't recognise how that person feels about this matter, after all, it's only a ring they say.  

Animals are companions.    A friend of mine told me that her husband Dave (a big rough Glaswegion guy) had broken down in tears when they had to take their dog to be put to sleep.   She had to end up carrying the large dog into the Vets.   She told me that later he had said "Every day, when I came home from work, that dog, waged it's tail at me.   It was genuinely pleased to see me, and it lifted my spirits to know, that the dog was waiting for me with that tail wagging, every day when I came home".

Anger needs to be acknowledged here as well.   Like Dave, he was then angry that there was nobody really to welcome him in this way.    Shirley his partner, later told me that she had been really hurt by this statement because she felt that she hadn't supported him and he had had to depend on the dog to welcome him home.    (Other emotions arise when the loss happens).   Some people ignore these also and again THAT is manifested in illness or emotional upset for the person involved.

To begin your recovery contact Jane on the following e mail address

ourlostpets@gmail.com

We can help people to work out the emotions and feeling surrounding the confusion of loss.   We use different methods depending on the person involved because different processes work for different people.    We offer Emotional Freedom Technique, Reiki, Creative Life Writing, Visualisation, and Art to release emotions.   Usually four sessions are recommended to provide a safe space for you to explore your feelings around your loss, however one off sessions are also available.